Knowing when to walk away is Wisdom, being able to is Courage and walking away with your head held high is Dignity

 

Can we work this out ?

I offer one to one sessions where I work with individuals or couples to explore issues within their relationships in order to try and find a peaceful and effective solution to the exhausting and destructive cycle that acrimony brings to a relationship , these sessions are informal and are all about creating a space to look at the relationship from a different perspective exploring through talking where any disconnection has occurred and then working to find resolution.

How can we separate without it destroying both of our lives ?

Having experienced relationship breakdown and subsequent divorce myself I understand what it is you're going through and can offer you advice and guidance that will help you to feel better equipped to deal with your ever changing emotions. I can get you to a place where you will understand why you are where you are, what's likely to happen next and how best to deal with it when it does.

I will empower you to feel strong and in control of your emotions and circumstances and in a far better position to manage the breakdown of your relationship so you can walk away with your dignity and sanity firmly intact. 

What does getting divorced actually involve and what is the likely outcome ?

I often see clients for a "what will this mean for me" session where we talk through what actually happens when you get divorced and what to expect in the coming months, these sessions are very useful for individuals that feel divorce may be on the horizon and want to know a bit more without committing to seeing a lawyer.

I can work with you should you decide that divorce is the way forward to ensure you have the right legal representation for you and your individual circumstances and give you guidance to help you get through the legal and practical process of divorce including coaching you through the completion of any necessary paperwork such as Form E's, statements and collating all required information in preparation for any formal hearing.

I can attend solicitors meetings with you to ensure you get the optimum benefit from time spent with your solicitor and be there to support you at any formal hearings as a Mckenzie friend.

How can we minimise the emotional impact on our children ?

I can give you invaluable advice & guidance on how to best emotionally support your children through the process of separation and divorce so that you can manage and minimise the emotional trauma caused, how you manage your circumstances now will have a lasting impact on your children's emotional well being going forward so its important to take the time to consider the longer term effects of divorce on your family dynamic.

I will work with you to encourage and create healthy communication within the family unit giving you a tool box of coping strategies to help you adjust to the new family dynamic that's being created.

I can advise you how best to manage the introduction of new partners to your children and coping mechanisms for emotionally dealing with the impact of these new partners will have on yours and your children's lives and offer you the benefit of continued support and guidance as those relationships develop,

How do we divide what we have so that its fair ?

I can assist you with the sale and acquisition of property including arranging valuations with trusted local property agents and supporting you throughout this process. Physically "moving on" from separation or divorce can be very traumatic so its important that you secure the best possible foundation for creating a healthy and independent life and an important part of that is finding somewhere you feel safe, comfortable and happy to call home.

To make life easier I can arrange for video inventories to be carried out to assist with the division of chattels and also, should it be required arrange for the valuation of any relevant chattels to be carried out by independent and trusted professionals, this can be but not exclusively include wine /artwork/ antiques and jewellery and any other items of high value.

I can provide you with:

• Support in re-designing your life from someone who has done exactly that.
• Access to my black book of holistic practitioners, property specialists, educational & recruitment consultants etc
• Coaching to empower you to take the necessary next steps in moving forwards both physically and emotionally
• Attending & assisting in future property search to ensure you secure the very best possible environment for you and or your family.
• The reassurance of continued support post divorce.

I can provide you with:

• Support in achieving clarity in your understanding of the legal process
• Coaching to assist you with efficient and effective collation & completion of financial disclosure
• Coaching for confidence before formal hearings
• Attending solicitors appointments/ formal legal hearings to get maximum benefit from legal appointments
• Mckenzie Friend support for formal hearings
• Support when petitioning for divorce online and advice throughout