"Knowing when to walk away is Wisdom, being able to is Courage and walking away with your head held high is Dignity"
I set up my business as a Break up and Divorce coach in 2017 after working for a number of years running my own lifestyle concierge business.
This busy role paired with my own experience of divorce back in 2004 organically inspired me to create the life raft of services that I wish had of been on offer to me when my life was turned upside down as I travelled through the unpredictable and unchartered territory of relationship breakdown and divorce. In many ways I've become the person I wish I'd have known then - an inspiring, informed person with an understanding of the legal process and the ability to empower me to do what it is I needed to do to get through this rollercoaster of a journey with my dignity and sanity intact.
I work with clients on two levels -
Relationship Therapy & Exploration
I firstly try to help clients explore if dissolving their relationship is the right resolution for them. In many cases people experiencing relationship difficulties enter into a state of complete confusion about what it is they need to do and in this space of not knowing how to move forwards make the decision to end the relationship.
I believe its crucial to take some time and create some space to work through whether ending the relationship is actually the right course of action and this is part of how I can help clients.
This exploration can be done through one to one sessions where I work with individuals on their own or together as couples to explore and address the issues that have created the acrimony within the relationship with the intention of finding some much needed clarity.
"Have you become co-dependent and disempowered in your relationship and need guidance & support to find your way back to a healthy interdependence ? "
I am committed to working with clients to find the right relationship resolution for their individual circumstances, every relationship is different and there is no one size fits all approach. Finding resolution is not simply a case of making up or breaking up , its about finding a way through the darkness that enables both parties to be happy and fulfilled in their chosen relationship.
Support through Relationship Breakdown, Separation & Divorce
If both parties are resolute that dissolving the relationship is the way forward I am then able to help and support them through the process of separation and if relevant, divorce.
I can support and advise on the various options available to you when you're faced with the reality of an irretrievably broken down marriage.
I can save you money on your legal bills by coaching through the legal process of divorce so that you ask the right questions and get the maximum value from your solicitor. I will give you practical and emotional guidance to ensure you're in the very best possible emotional and psychological headspace to deal with your ever changing emotions and circumstances.
I will give you the tools and guidance to enable you to make informed decisions and feel better equipped should you need to go to court .
Given time and support you will heal and learn many invaluable lessons from this experience, you will survive and if you commit to creating a positive future you will also thrive as a result.
With the right coaching you will have the tools and skills to completely re-design your life just like you did when you were a young adult, you will have choices and be able to create opportunities, rekindle hopes and re-create dreams, un-earth dormant plans and ignite lost bucket lists, this divorce isn't the end of "you", it may be the end of "you" as you know it but in so many ways its a wonderful new beginning....
How Can I help you ?
Can we work this out ?
I offer one to one sessions where I work with individuals or couples to explore issues within their relationships in order to try and find a peaceful and effective solution to the exhausting and destructive cycle that acrimony brings to a relationship , these sessions are informal and are all about creating a space to look at the relationship from a different perspective exploring through talking where any disconnection has occurred and then working to find resolution.
How can we separate without it destroying both of our lives ?
Having experienced relationship breakdown and subsequent divorce myself I understand what it is you're going through and can offer you advice and guidance that will help you to feel better equipped to deal with your ever changing emotions. I can get you to a place where you will understand why you are where you are, what's likely to happen next and how best to deal with it when it does.
I will empower you to feel strong and in control of your emotions and circumstances and in a far better position to manage the breakdown of your relationship so you can walk away with your dignity and sanity firmly intact. C
What does getting divorced actually involve and what is the likely outcome ?
I often see clients for a "what will this mean for me" session where we talk through what actually happens when you get divorced and what to expect in the coming months, these sessions are very useful for individuals that feel divorce may be on the horizon and want to know a bit more without committing to seeing a lawyer.
I can work with you should you decide that divorce is the way forward to ensure you have the right legal representation for you and your individual circumstances and give you guidance to help you get through the legal and practical process of divorce including coaching you through the completion of any necessary paperwork such as Form E's, statements and collating all required information in preparation for any formal hearing.
I can attend solicitors meetings with you to ensure you get the optimum benefit from time spent with your solicitor and be there to support you at any formal hearings.
Supporting families through Relationship Breakdown & Divorce
How can we minimise the emotional impact on our children ?
I can give you invaluable advice & guidance on how to best emotionally support your children through the process of separation and divorce so that you can manage and minimise the emotional trauma caused, how you manage your circumstances now will have a lasting impact on your children's emotional well being going forward so its important to take the time to consider the longer term effects of divorce on your family dynamic.
I will work with you to encourage and create healthy communication within the family unit giving you a tool box of coping strategies to help you adjust to the new family dynamic that's being created.
I can advise you how best to manage the introduction of new partners to your children and coping mechanisms for emotionally dealing with the impact of these new partners will have on yours and your children's lives and offer you the benefit of continued support and guidance as those relationships develop,
Practical Support- Division of Assets & Chattels
How do we divide what we have so that its fair ?
I can assist you with the sale and acquisition of property including arranging valuations with trusted local property agents and supporting you throughout this process. Physically "moving on" from separation or divorce can be very traumatic so its important that you secure the best possible foundation for creating a healthy and independent life and an important part of that is finding somewhere you feel safe, comfortable and happy to call home.
To make life easier I can arrange for video inventories to be carried out to assist with the division of chattels and also, should it be required arrange for the valuation of any relevant chattels to be carried out by independent and trusted professionals, this can be but not exclusively include wine /artwork/ antiques and jewellery and any other items of high value.
Additional Legal Support Services
I can provide you with:
"Divorcing without Drama"
My "Divorcing without Drama" workshops are held in January and September in both London and The Cotswold's and are designed to take you through what I believe to be the seven stages of divorce, from the initial disconnection of the relationship to living life as an independent single person. The workshop will give you the coping mechanisms to travel through the process of divorce with dignity ensuring you achieve the best possible outcome for yourself both personally and financially.
The workshop is also an invaluable opportunity to take some time out from your own personal drama and give yourself the space and time to nurture yourself so that you feel stronger, more balanced and in control of your emotions, its also a great opportunity to get together with other individuals that may be going through a similar experience and feel the benefit of their support.
The workshops are held over a weekend and are residential.
To register your interest in any workshops please fill in contact me or email Rachel@TheDivorceConsultant.co.uk
Virtual (Zoom / Skype/Telephone)
Sessions (60 mins) £95
Packages of 5 sessions £450
Packages of 10 sessions £850
Monthly retainer £680 to include one weekly 60 minute zoom/face to face & two weekly 30 minute check in and progress calls.
More intensive packages can be agreed by separate negotiation.
Appointments, subject to restrictions can be held face to face at my clinic in Cirencester or nationwide by negotiation.
We can help you with what seems like an endless list of things to do, getting divorced can be not only a legal minefield but also a practical one.
Need a spare pair of hands ?
Packing up one house, finding another, moving schools, selling and buying cars, finding childcare, single parent holidays..the list goes on and on and we're here to help you make sense of it all- you don't need to do this all by yourself.
Divorce Concierge services charged at £65 per hour and can be bought in blocks of 5 hours. Please get in touch for more information or to discuss your requirements.
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I met Rachael in early 2018 when I was in the first stages of divorce and felt over whelmed by all the paperwork. Rachael arrived at our first meeting calm, positive and professional. After establishing my situation she put things in motion, explaining the initial stages, and the information I would need. I went on to have several more meetings and guided by Rachael explaining what was expected and what I could ignore, steadily worked through the seemingly acres of figures and questions. During this time my confidence in dealing with the divorce grew, we compiled everything and I was able to send it to my solicitor and move on with the divorce.
Later in the year I lost someone very close to me through illness. My divorce was progressing, however slowly, and while going through a very sad and emotional time I arranged to see Rachael again, she listened, empathised and gave me pertinent practical advice.
At all times Rachael has been professional, she is warm, friendly and quick to turn her mind to whatever problem arises with relevant knowledge and advice.
I would not hesitate to recommend her she has been a huge help at one of the most difficult times of my life.
I was recommended to see Rachel when my husband announced he wanted a divorce at the beginning of lockdown, I was so confused and hurt and needed to talk to someone who could help explain why this was happening, Rachel was amazing and helped me so much, I really couldn't have got through last year without her support and guidance"
Terms & Conditions:
SCHEDULE A – TERMS AND CONDITIONS RELATING SPECIFICALLY TO DIVORCE COACHING, THESE TERMS AND CONDITIONS SHOULD BE READ CAREFULLY BY THE CLIENT INTENDING TO RECEIVE DIVORCE COACHING.
At this particular time in Client’s life, it is important for us to be clear as to the terms on which we will be providing our services to Client. Please therefore read the terms below and if Client has any questions, let us know. We look forward to working with Client.
1. Rachel Vincent's Divorce Coaching Service:
1.1 Client and Client’s coach will agree the scope of the divorce coaching Client is seeking at Client’s first consultation.
1.2 Consultations can take place at Rachel Vincent's office in Cirencester, or in Client’s own home, or at a neutral venue, or by way of telephone calls, or Skype. Rachel Vincent recommends strongly that the first consultation is held by way of a physical meeting between Client and Client’s coach.
1.3 Please note that Rachel Vincent's coaching is not counselling, psychotherapy or psychoanalysis and nor does Rachel Vincent provide mental health services or advice. It is not, and is not to be used as, a substitute for appropriate professional advice. In particular, it is Client responsibility to seek professional guidance for legal, medical, financial, business, mental health or other specific matters from an appropriate, professional adviser.
2.1 Rachel Vincent's hourly fee is £95, which is payable in advance. Rachel Vincent's hourly rates are subject to change, but 30 (thirty) days’ prior written notice will be given. The rate which Client will pay will be specified on the Agreement, which will constitute part of Client’s Agreement with Rachel Vincent.
2.2 Travel expenses and Rachel Vincent's time are charged for any consultations held outside Rachel Vincent's offices in Cirencester or Rachel Vincent's London base.
2.3 For the avoidance of doubt, travel expenses time are charged for consultations held in the Client’s home.
2.4 Where travel expenses and Rachel Vincent's time are to be charged for, these will be discussed and agreed with Client, in writing, in advance of the coaching consultation.
2.5 Payment for a coaching consultation must be received by Rachel Vincent no less than 24 hours before the time agreed for the coaching appointment.
2.6 Payment must be made by bank transfer, though Rachel Vincent reserves the right to alter the payment mechanism from time to time.
2.7 Client will be responsible for the booking of and the cost of any consultation venue outside Rachel Vincent's offices in Cirencester or Rachel Vincent's London base.
3. Cancellation and missed consultations:
3.1 If Client is unable to attend a consultation, please let Rachel Vincent know as soon as possible. If Client simply fails to attend a consultation or does not give the required notice of not less than 12 hours, Rachel Vincent reserves the right to retain the fees paid.
3.2 It is important that the consultations start at the agreed time. If Client is late for a consultation, the consultation will in any event be deemed to have started at the agreed time.
4.1 Rachel Vincent's coaching is provided with all reasonable care, skill and with experience. Subject to that, Rachel Vincent does not accept any liability to Client, save only as specified below in clause 4(b). In particular, Rachel Vincent gives no warranty as to what Client may achieve as a result of Rachel Vincent's coaching. Client is responsible for the actions he / she does or does not take following the coaching received by Client.
4.2 To the extent permitted by law, Rachel Vincent's maximum aggregate liability in acting for Client is capped at what is recoverable by Rachel Vincent under its professional indemnity insurance cover from time to time; a copy of the relevant policy is available, on request.
5.1 Any information Client passes to Client’s coach is entirely confidential and will not be disclosed to others, save in circumstances in which Rachel Vincent withholding of information might result in harm to Client or others, or lead to legal proceedings of any kind, or as may be required by the law. It is, of course, not possible to protect the confidentiality of information that is transmitted electronically through emails and computers connected to the internet that do not utilise security or encryption protection.
5.2 In the event that consultations are conducted in a group format, Client agrees to maintain the confidentiality of all information communicated to Client by Client’s coach and by Rachel Vincent's other coaching clients.
5.3 The provisions relating to confidentiality stated in clause 14 of the General Ts&Cs will also apply.
6. Termination and Refunds: A. Regarding Termination, the following will apply (i.e. to CONSUMER Clients):
6.1 Client or Client’s coach may terminate the coaching relationship at any time, on the giving of appropriate, prior written notice.
6.2 In the event that the Client’s coach terminates the coaching relationship, then, as far as possible, Rachel Vincent would give Client reasonable notice and would explain the reasons to Client.
6.4 Client may use his / her own style of cancellation provided he / she makes it clear that cancellation is intended.