"Knowing when to walk away is Wisdom, being able to is Courage and walking away with your head held high is Dignity"
I set up my business as a relationship and divorce coach after working for a number of years running my own lifestyle concierge business where I looked after a number of incredibly busy and successful individuals to ensure the smooth running of their intensely demanding lives.
This role paired with my own experience of divorce organically inspired me to create the life raft of services that I wish had of been on offer to me when I myself was travelling through the unpredictable and often unchartered territory of relationship breakdown and subsequent divorce. In many ways I've become the person I wish I'd have known then, a person who would understand what it was I was going through and a person that would help me find my way through it..
I work with clients on two levels -
I firstly try to help clients explore if dissolving their relationship is the right resolution for them as individuals and as a couple. In many cases people experiencing relationship difficulties in a state of desperation of not knowing how to mend a seemingly broken relationship completely destroy it so its vital to work through whether ending the relationship is actually the right course of action.
This can be done through one to one sessions where I work with individuals or couples to explore and address the issues that have created the acrimony within the relationship with the intention of helping them find a peaceful solution.
I am committed to working with clients to find the right relationship resolution for their individual circumstances, every relationship is different and every relationship needs to be considered with compassion and respect - there is no one size fits all approach, its not just a case of make up or break up , its more a case of finding a way through that makes sense and allows both individuals to grow and expand as a result of being or not being in that particular relationship.
Empowerment & Support through relationship breakdown and separation
If both parties are resolute that dissolving the relationship is the way forward for them then I am able to help and support them through the necessary legal and financial process of separation and if relevant divorce
I have a good solid knowledge of the legal process and the various options available to you when you're faced with the reality of an irretrievably broken down marriage.
I can save you money on your legal bills by assisting you with the completion and collating of all the necessary paperwork, attend legal meetings with you to ensure you get the best out of your time with your solicitor and support you practically and personally throughout, preparing you for and attending formal legal hearings with you if required.
I will give you the tools and guidance to enable you to make informed decisions and feel better equipped mentally and emotionally to handle your ever changing emotions and circumstances, inspiring and empowering you to move forward towards an enriching and exciting life that you won’t believe wasn’t ever destined to be.
The reality is divorce is an ending to a part of our lives and although that may be hard to accept or understand life does goes on and whilst the process of divorce can be traumatic and extremely painful its not the end of your life even if it feels like it is, given time and support you will heal from and learn from this experience, you will survive and if you commit to creating a positive future you will also thrive as a result.
You now have or will soon have the power to recreate and redesign your life just like you did when you were a young adult, you have choices and opportunities, hopes and dreams, probably dormant plans and lost bucket lists, this divorce isn't the end of "you", it may be the end of "you" as you know it but in so many ways its a wonderful new beginning....
How Can I help you ?
Can we work this out ?
I offer one to one sessions where I work with individuals or couples to explore issues within their relationships in order to try and find a peaceful and effective solution to the exhausting and destructive cycle that acrimony brings to a relationship , these sessions are informal and are all about creating a space to look at the relationship from a different perspective exploring through talking where any disconnection has occurred and then working to find resolution.
Emotional Empowerment & Support
How can we separate without it destroying both of our lives ?
Having experienced relationship breakdown and subsequent divorce myself I understand what it is you're going through and can offer you advice and guidance that will help you to feel better equipped to deal with your ever changing emotions. I can get you to a place where you will understand why you are where you are, what's likely to happen next and how best to deal with it when it does.
I will empower you to feel strong and in control of your circumstances and in a far better position to manage the breakdown of your relationship so you can walk away from the relationship with your dignity and sanity firmly intact. C
What does getting divorced actually involve and what is the likely outcome ?
I often see clients for a "what will this mean for me" session where we talk through what actually happens when you get divorced and the likely hood of a potential outcome, these sessions are very useful for individuals that feel divorce may be on the horizon and want to know a bit more without committing to seeing a lawyer.
I can work with you should you decide that divorce is the way forward to ensure you have the right legal representation for you and your individual circumstances and give you guidance to help you get through the legal and practical process of divorce including assisting you with completing any necessary paperwork such as Form E's, statements and collating all required information in preparation for any formal hearing.
I can attend solicitors meetings with you to ensure you get the optimum benefit from time spent with your solicitor and be there to support you at any formal hearings.
Supporting families through relationship breakdown & Divorce
How can we minimise the emotional impact on our children ?
I can give you invaluable advice & guidance on how to best emotionally support your children through the process of separation and divorce so that you can manage and minimise the emotional trauma caused, how you manage your circumstances now will have a lasting impact on your children's emotional well being going forward.
I will work with you to encourage and create healthy communication within the family unit giving you a tool box of coping strategies to help you adjust to the new family dynamic that's being created.
I can advise you how best to manage the introduction of new partners to your children and coping mechanisms for emotionally dealing with the impact of these new partners will have on yours and your children's lives and offer you the benefit of continued support and guidance as those relationships develop,
Practical Support- Division of Assets & Chattels
How do we divide what we have so that its fair ?
I can assist you with the sale and acquisition of property including arranging valuations with trusted local property agents and supporting you throughout the conveyancing process. Physically "moving on" from separation or divorce can be very traumatic so its important that you secure the best possible foundation for creating a healthy and independent life and an important part of that is finding somewhere you feel safe, comfortable and happy to call home.
To make life easier I can arrange for video inventories to be carried out to assist with the division of chattels and also, should it be required arrange for the valuation of any relevant chattels to be carried out by independent and trusted professionals, this can be but not exclusively include wine /artwork/ antiques and jewellery and any other items of high value.
Legal Support Services
I can provide you with:
Form E collation including writing of statements £30 per hour
Home contents Video Inventories from £300 (dependent on size of property)
Full day rate for attending formal legal hearings £350
Half day rate for attending legal appointments/ formal hearings £175
Office based administration £30 per hour
Travel is charged at 0.45 per mile outside of GL7 postcode.
Please see "Fees" for consultation fees and packages available.
"Seven Steps to a Drama free Divorce" with Rachel Vincent
My workshops are designed to take you through the seven stages of divorce from the initial disconnection of the relationship to living life as an independent single person, the workshop will give you the coping mechanisms to travel through the process of divorce with dignity ensuring you achieve the best possible outcome for yourself both personally and financially.
The workshop is also an invaluable opportunity to take some time out from your own personal drama and give yourself the space and time to nurture yourself so that you feel stronger, more balanced and in control of your emotions, its also a great opportunity to get together with other individuals that may be going through a similar experience and feel the benefit of their support.
To register your interest in any workshops please fill in contact me or email Rachel@TheDivorceConsultant.co.uk
One to One
Sessions (90 mins) £70
Packages of 5 sessions £300
Packages of 10 sessions £550
One to One
Sessions (90 mins) £110
Packages of 5 sessions £500
Packages of 10 sessions £900
I am based in the South West but can also see clients in Central London or nationally/internationally by separate negotiation.
We can help you with what seems like an endless list of things to do, getting divorced can be not only a legal minefield but also a practical one.
Need a spare pair of hands ?
Packing up one house, finding another, moving schools, selling and buying cars, finding childcare, single parent holidays..the list goes on and on and we're here to help you make sense of it all- you don't need to do this all by yourself.
Divorce Concierge services charged at £25 per hour and can be bought in blocks of 5 hours. Please get in touch for more information or to discuss your requirements.
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I met Rachael in early 2018 when I was in the first stages of divorce and felt over whelmed by all the paperwork. Rachael arrived at our first meeting calm, positive and professional. After establishing my situation she put things in motion, explaining the initial stages, and the information I would need. I went on to have several more meetings and guided by Rachael explaining what was expected and what I could ignore, steadily worked through the seemingly acres of figures and questions. During this time my confidence in dealing with the divorce grew, we compiled everything and I was able to send it to my solicitor and move on with the divorce.
Later in the year I lost someone very close to me through illness. My divorce was progressing, however slowly, and while going through a very sad and emotional time I arranged to see Rachael again, she listened, empathised and gave me pertinent practical advice.
At all times Rachael has been professional, she is warm, friendly and quick to turn her mind to whatever problem arises with relevant knowledge and advice.
I would not hesitate to recommend her she has been a huge help at one of the most difficult times of my life.